Homemaker Depression-Reasons and Remedies in My Style

Last night, I read an article on Homemaker depression.The symptoms were not clinically experimented but formed out of acute observation. Homemaker depression means depression of a woman after she becomes a house wife confined to the ridiculous square meters of home.The depression which results from losing self-worth in spite of working harder than men because nobody appreciation their handwork. It becomes worser when the goddammit husbands carries an ancient perspective that women are supposed to stay at home in spite of the fact that in modern world woman could be as educated and intelligent as him.

Indian society is monstrous society because the parents imbibe deep-rooted dogma among the girls and boys of gender differences.Girls are expected to assume the role of homemaker sometime in the future and the boys are supposed to provide for the family.Even the most educated prepare life-long for the dowry their girl child.Whereas the parents of the boy child expect a mouth-watering dowry in their son's wedding.In both the events parents have to be blamed.Parents imbibe wrong values within the children because their parents have taught them to do so.Education hasn't made any significant change in their perspective and these lazy lobsters continue to provide defective education to young children in the name of 'tradition'.

The consequences of this wretched activity is breakdown of mental stability the male and females growing up in this environment. They subconsciously trust the horrendous ideologies of the parents and struggle to overcome them even when it's killing them.

Problems Faced by Indian Men

Men exhaust themselves with rigorous work because they have to provide for their family.They cannot think of taking a break from the work and  shift the responsibility to the spouse because the society might think otherwise.However, they don't realize that the battle is not with society but with themselves because they are not able to shake off the image of ideal Indian husband,father or son.It's okay to take a long break from the work so that the light enters between the spaces.It can nowhere question the confirmation of their gender.


Problems Faced by Indian Women

While, women suffer from the condition called cowardice where they fear to express their genuine feelings about homemaking.Who could enjoy the task of shrubbing the house without being credited appreciation or money ? Indian mother-in-laws hardly respect the individuality of daughter-in-law.The daughter-in-law can accept the mother-in-law as mother but the latter hardly does.As a result, the women's soul is depressed by continuous scorn. Working housewives face a stiffer challenge  because she has to manage both home and office. Indian men do not believe in the dividing the household duties.They wouldn't fetch a glass of water if a women is at home.This speaks very poor of their upbringing but that is how it is.Mother-in-law and other family members are always there to remind the lady of her duties but the husband is mostly spared.Worn out with responsibilities the woman lives between the  realm of frustration and anger.She begins complaining.But did I mention that women in India are not even allowed to complain ? Cheap jokes portraying the vamp wives is circulated among friends. The slogan , 'My wife pesters me' becomes a regular subject of tiffin hours among husbands .There is a fiasco in the relation and it ends in an unhappy state of mind.Men become cankerous and women silent  after insatiable arguments.No one can achieve ultimate happiness but at least harmony was possible.In this scenario, nobody is ready to listen each other therefore harmony is a far cry.

It certainly possible to escape a life of frustration by following few principles in life-

1. Be honest to yourself.
2. Introspect your ideologies.Are they worth following?
3. Replace them with logical perspectives.
4. Seek for things that make you happy.There are thousands of profession which can be followed in the era of 21st century.One shouldn't shy away from their dreams.They will impart you solace and a better state of mind.
5. Open about dreams to your partner.It doesn't matter if they discourage or scorn it.You should have a stronghold on them.They are your dreams !
6. Love is the most powerful energy to transform your life.Pursue for things or events that you enjoy.You would see a drastic transformation of depressing energies into positive energies.It will solve all your problems.This is the guru mantra of all problems.